So, it took maybe 30 years and some change to realize what I've probably known for a while when it comes to women co-existing in the world. We can, if we want to, but for some reason we like to make it difficult. Why though?
Cliques exist through life for a lot of women. There is always an "in" crowd and always someone trying to figure out how to get in. Motivated and fueled by comparing one's self to someone else for most. Trying to conform to stereotypes displayed in media, which are truly unrealistic. The thing that the women who do that fail to realize is that there is no gain in doing that. You live a life of entrapment and are always chasing, comparing when you should be uplifting and working as a team. I've heard women find something bad in any and everything another woman does. She can be too pretty, too smart, too well-spoken, too well-traveled, too fit, too experienced, too nice, too confident, too organized, too cautious, too faithful, too humble, too loyal, too....well, you catch my drift. How can someone really find bad in good? I'm sure this happens across color lines, in various cultures, but I've witnessed this with black women (I'm a black woman myself) and it can be very disheartening. It's like there's one life stage and only so many women can be on it at a time. The truth is, the stage is big enough for everyone! If we spent more time building each other up, rather than tearing each other down, imagine how much more fulfilling life would be! Imaging how few negative things men would have to say about us... because we thought so much higher of ourselves and each other.
This was on my mind to write about because we often forget that each of us have our own story. That girl that is so pretty, with the long hair, face beat and gorgeous smile probably looks like that on the outside because she has a horrible home life. Maybe she is getting abused, her relationship is broken, she suffered a close family loss. That woman you just had to make a remark about weight has probably been sexually abused, became depressed, gained weight that she could not lose because her depression has never been treated. That woman who is always talking about how in love she is with her husband, let her! She probably never saw a stable relationship in her life and had to live through a few bad ones before finding her prince charming. That woman who must thinks she is all that since she got that degree and a job. She went into debt to get that degree. She did not have a relationship with her friends. She was a teenage mother, in an emotionally abusive relationship and had low self-esteem. There's a story behind every woman, most of us couldn't walk in the other's shoes. 
We all have something we want to fix, can fix, and maybe should fix. We could have the power of Wonder Woman if we would work hard at working together. When did you last compliment someone? I would love to be dressed nicely, be myself, go into a place and not worry about having to be "side-eyed." You know what I mean...looked up and down, judged, presumed "stuck up" before saying two words. We women have to get beyond that. Love one another, promote one another! Cattiness is for cats. We are not cats...at least i'm not. You don't see men, on the regular, dogging  each other out, ganging up on each other. We have to separate ourselves from the mess!
We have the power to be powerful, to change the views of the world, but first we must come together. So, next time you see a woman being fabulous, compliment her. You see her in passing, say hi. You see her working towards a goal, uplift her. If she is down, don't kick her, help her and find encouraging words. Be positive, loving, wonderful. That is all.

Be a Wonder Woman